THE lady on the phone was adamant when I asked her what would make her happy. “Getting down to 9st 7lbs,” she insisted. It was an interesting answer. But not as interesting as her answer to my next question.
“So if you’d lost two stones, apart from a different number on the scales what would be the evidence that you were happier?”
There was a pause. A long one. “Hmm,” she said. “I don’t know what happiness will look like. It’s been such a long time since I last weighed nine stone that feeling happy is something I’ve forgotten.”
It was time for my killer question. One that always makes people stop and think.
“Tell me Jill,” I said. “In your mind, why is happiness solely attached to the number on the scales?”
She paused again. Then…
“OMG,” she said with obvious delight. ”I’d never looked at it that way before.”
And that’s the problem so many people have.
They cast their minds back to the days when they were happy and trouble-free and assume that if only they could be as slim as they were then, all that happiness would just come flooding back.
It creates huge and unnecessary stress that simply drags them down. They spend all their time being obsessed about the number they saw on the scales 25 or 30 years ago.
They think that’s the key to their weight loss happiness.
By directly linking smaller size with greater happiness they overlook the fact that the world has changed for all of us.
When we were younger (OMG, I’m sounding like my mother) there were no mobile phones, no laptops and no social media – so we weren’t constantly comparing ourselves with other people and the way they looked and felt.
Today life is super-busy and ultra-stressful. Linking happiness to the scales means life can become an emotional rollercoaster.
That’s why I’ve posted this special video in The Slimpod Channel on YouTube because it’s so important to stop this obsession with the number on the scales and to be able to think carefully about what happiness really means to us.
Instead of doing something that makes us unhappy every day, we need to flip it round completely.
Knowing your destination is important but you must learn to love the journey.
Enjoy the process. Get your weight loss happiness from small daily and weekly steps that are achievable.
That’s where your Slimpod will be a great help. Feeling good about yourself is the route to self-fulfilment and self-esteem.
Forget the scales. Just be you – a warm and wonderful person, not a number.
Please leave a comment below to tell me what’s going to give you weight loss happiness. I love reading them all – because they make ME happy.