I DON’T know about you but I’m finding this lockdown the hardest one yet. So many people are saying the same – even the most positive of people who are used to winning the day are finding it a struggle getting out of bed some days. It’s literally groundhog day every day.
I spoke to a lady last week who was doing so well with her wonderful new lifestyle habits, had dropped two sizes and was feeling SO motivated.
Her new way of eating and exercise had become wonderful feelgood habits, she was loving it – until the January lockdown happened and then she felt something stopped.
It was like a light in her brain had been turned off. She became so apathetic and the motivation was sucked out of her soul.
Then fear of failure reared its ugly head and she panicked.
She was paralysed with worry that she’d lost the magic and all her fabulous new habits were going to be undone. She felt she was going backwards.
She’s absolutely not alone. I know so many people in the same boat and this week I want to help you stop this and get you moving forward and happy again.
First of all, if this is happening to you, I want to assure you that you’re really not going mad and that this can totally be solved!
Let’s stop fear in its tracks! Weight loss shouldn’t be a fearful experience, but the fear has been created because of years and years of battling with food and diets.
Slimming club weigh-ins cause a lot of anxiety because you get worried about whether you’ve “lost” weight and whether you’ll feel humiliated.
Throughout the years layers and layers of anxieties and worries build up and become so big that it eventually means the very mention of losing weight brings on anxiety.
And then there’s fear of self-sabotage or falling off the wagon – you begin worrying about whether you’ll fall off the wagon before it actually happens and then it becomes inevitable because you can’t get it off your mind.
Other people worry why they’re not losing weight as quick as they’d hoped, but then give up and stop losing weight altogether because it’s easier that way! Fear of failure can be a deep-rooted fear.
But fear is a mind game and we’ve never taught ourselves to deal with it. The motive behind fear is avoidance.
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Fear doesn’t help you commit to something – it stops you succeeding. Fear stops you challenging yourself.
So the trick is to master your fear because that’s the greatest leap towards freedom and lasting weight loss.
Just think about what fear has cost you in your life because if you worry about not losing weight, I’m betting you’ll also worry and have fears about other things too.
If you had more courage and less fear, what would you do? Just imagine what that would do to your motivation! If fear is winning in your life, it’s because you keep choosing it over courage, bravery and strength. When you’re trying to lose weight and something causes you to be fearful, you have a choice.
You can cave into the fear or you can be strong and get past it.
The greatest battles in life are between fear and freedom. Either fear wins or freedom wins.
How many times have you run away from something uncomfortable rather than looking past it for the possibilities, potential and freedom?
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What about if the next time you were confronted with the fear you stayed strong – what’s the worst that can happen? Make a decision now to stop letting your fears win.
You don’t have to be a slave to your history. You can be free.
The great efforts to move life forward comes down to one moment in time when we interrupt the fear and activate our freedom by choosing to think and feel differently.
Yes, it’s about choice! We all have a choice. We don’t have to be held hostage by our own minds!
Make decisions and choices that will take you forward into believing and trusting new things. All you need to do is know it’s possible. Don’t let your fears define who you are.
So your task this week is to think about whether fear of failure has sabotaged your weight loss in the past – and now confront it.
Don’t let it win this time.
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So many of us are doing ridiculous hours and home schooling, too. We’re stressed and that isn’t helping either.
But please take care of YOU in all this. Be realistic about what you want to achieve in the short term. Don’t set yourself up for failure by setting unrealistic goals.
Take one day at a time. And take one baby step at a time, too.
Set small goals you can achieve within 24 hours.
Get involved in the motivational challenges that are running in Slimpod Club.
Success at the moment is all about winning the day!
Join me on our main Slimpod for weight loss page for a Facebook Live on Tuesday January 26) at 7.30pm UK time, when I’ll be doing a deeper dive into all this and I’ll be helping you to stop self-sabotage in its tracks!
I’m also live on Instagram on Wednesday at 7pm.
If you’re a Slimpodder who’s not on Facebook or Instagram, there’s free Zoom support especially for you. Join Kate this Wednesday at 10am at www.goldgatherings.com
Tell me below if you know what stops you from succeeding and I’ll make sure I discuss it on an upcoming live
And by the way, the lady at the start of the story has taken back control and will be telling her story soon! I do love a happy ending!